I’ve had use of a friends flat in Auckland the past week. He has one of those black light bulbs in the bathroom. Top pic I took at night. Second two are me playing with it in photoshop. Seriously cool. Have always loved grainy pictures.

Voting time to decide who wins the 4 free Escort websites being given away by Sexworkers.co.nz. Entrants had to have profiles created by 21 June as discussed.

The Poll has been set up on Escorts Forum. This is exclusive to EF and the only place you can vote for your favourites. Please support them. This is an awesome opportunity for the winners.

To those of you have have made the Top 8, CONGRATULATIONS and good luck. I’m really looking forward to seeing the new websites going live. An awesome contribution to NZ’s industry. Get your friends and favourite clients over to Escorts Forum! Bribery and corruption encouraged .

Voting closes on 29th July (14 days).

Poll is closed!

Congratulations to:

Heidi
Minx
Nicole
Tannah

Well done ladies

Unfortunately Leesa announced she was leaving the industry part way through voting.

Win a date with Ms Munro competition has come to a close. Yes, we had some entries . Congratulations to M73! Thoroughly deserved.

Many thanks also to the other Escorts Forum members who entered. Really appreciated. As it happens, part of my small disclaimer mentioned those I wont see professionally. Friends. Friends could still enter but we’d be doing lunch! M73 is very firmly in this category. I’ll tell you more about him one day. He was mentioned sometime ago in my Valentines 08 post. M. In fact, this very incident he took great pleasure in sharing with everyone recently.

Thanks sweet. You’re precious x

I’ve had a note about this on my Escort Marketing Photoshoots page for awhile but now I’m upping the anti. I have an idea (not uncommon for me but this one I’m running with).

The deal:

• I need the space for a full 12 hours.
• You cannot be present for the 12 hours (so will need to trust me).
• You will not mind the space / props being recognised in Escort Photos.
• I will require confirmation 30 days in advance and will pay deposit.
• Auckland ideally but other locations considered.
• I will pay $300.00.

I cannot pay more than the $300 so please don’t ask. Refundable bond is no problem. Alternatively, if you have a venue available for 2 days and want pictures taken of yourself / you and your partner / other…let me use your venue for the first day and your photoshoot will be on the second day at a 50% discount on my full photoshoot rates.

ANYTHING CONSIDERED, modern, rustic, classic, other. I will need somewhere once a month, different location each time. An awesome way to earn yourself an easy few dollars. I can work in with your preferred day of the week, Sundays included. Please click contact above to email or call 021 0766259. Some ideas are below:

• A very nice / classic car.
• Large, well furbished bathroom / spa bath.
• Swimming or spa pool (private seting).
• Feature garden.
• Private Boat.
• Very nice house / apartment.
• Cafe / restaurant / bar (curtained or no windows).
• Other shop, anything considered!
• Games room.
• Bach.
• Office.

un•so•lic•it•ed
adj. Not looked for or requested; unsought: an unsolicited manuscript; unsolicited opinions.

I’ve had a roller coaster week! Dramas. Some awesome news. Dramas. Way too much thinking. One point that has been highlighted is the sharing of unsolicited information. As the years go on for me in this business I grow increasingly peevish about it.

pee⋅vish
–adjective
1. cross, querulous, or fretful, as from vexation or discontent: a peevish youngster.
2. showing annoyance, irritation, or bad mood: a peevish reply; a peevish frown.
3. perverse or obstinate.
Synonyms:
1. petulant, irritable, snappish.

It’s no great secret that I’m pretty “out” but most aren’t. Unfortunately, this means they have secrets! Everyone has goddam secrets! Big ones. And if you know their secrets you are responsible for keeping them safe. As someone who really doesn’t have secrets, I don’t require reciprocation. I do not place this expectation / burden on anyone. Yet other peoples are placed on me daily.

I understand why.

I certainly feel honoured that I am trusted with this.

But. As the information I carry grows I increasingly feel the need to “control” what I’m presented with. To control, and make very clear, what I’m willing to take responsibilty for. A conversation recently went something like:

Sally: “Don’t tell me, I don’t want to know”
Response: *full, detailed low down on everything that happened*
Sally: “What part of “I don’t want to know” did you think I didn’t mean!?”

This is unsolicited information. Information I have not agreed to care for, yet, I am likely still expected to. A big one for me is real names. I do not want real names in my head! Fine to know them (generally) but I don’t want them used around me. Anyone wanting to come into the industry will usually introduced themselves by their real name. Once a working name has been decided this is who they become to me, even in our private emails. I do explain why.

It’s too easy to trip up. It gets too confusing! I live in a permanent state of paranoid fear that I’ve inadvertently made a public (or otherwise) reference to someone using their private information. Particularly when you know someone well, as equally their real name vs alias, the line becomes very blurred. So far I haven’t slipped up but, this is purely because I work very hard not to and frankly, I’m getting sick of the pressure.

Unsolicited information can see you in the firing line just because “you know it". Whether you wished to know this or not becomes completely irrelevant.

Unsolicited information can see you involved in things you would far rather have stayed out of. Unfortunately, now you know, you do need to do something. Head in the sand does serve some purposes!

In saying all of this, I do not apply anything a client would share with me to unsolicited category. I appreciate their honesty and sharing of themselves. Inviting them to contact me constitutes my agreement. I AGREE to carry his/her secrets. I have no issue with them, no resentment of them, no desire to minimise them.

Yes, it has been a drama week and I’m feeling particularly sensitive. But, people MUST take responsibility for what they share. People MUST consider the position they inadvertently place others in with their revelations. The point that I have no secrets* does add a particular dimension to my stance.

*I thought I’d done a post on secrets but I can’t find it if I have. Coming soon if not.

Rebecca Adams, Learned it all from Chuck…

A 22yo Uni student and Escort in Auckland. I love b-grade action movies, converse allstars and fruity nik-naks. Seeking adult flannelette onesy pyjamas. Being passionate about people I am studying toward a career in social work or child psychotherapy.

Our newest (and scorching hot) Escort Blogger. She’s off to a flying start! Awesome.
Good to have you here Rebecca .